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Why do you need someone to complete yourself? Why cannot you complete yourself?  May be you can but possibly after t...
By Yubraj Parajuli

Why do you need someone to complete yourself? Why cannot you complete yourself?  May be you can but possibly after the existence of magnetic monopole or you’ve been brainwashed since hundreds of years for finding someone getting married, rearing and caring  offspring and again finding someone for your offspring  for the regulation of this  social ecosystem. 


There is an old concept of soul mate; somewhere someone is perfectly made for you. This in an abstract approach towards love but the concept of compromise is the realistic one. Eternal love stories are about separation and heartbreak but not about togetherness and happily ever after. Romeo and Juliet would never be loved this much if their story had a happy ending. Their love would be considered just a mediocre one if they had a conjugal life. 


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The complete idea of a soul mate is based on a thing which people call “fate”.


This idea has been repeatedly shown in movies and written in novels for long time. It is believed that fate brings soul mate together.  A boy sees a girl some electrical spark passes through his neurons and they say it “love at a first sight”. That’s not love, it’s just increase in hormones not even oxytocin. We can also assume that there is no any existence of anything like romantic love.  It’s merely an affinity. It’s like a chemical bond, sharing electrons with each other which remains stable  until another element with greater affinity comes near or until there is no any application of external force. Thus we can consider the longevity of a romantic love depends until there is sharing of common interest. 


Love is beautiful until you get married, in love people feel passion they get purpose they live a life. After marriage love gets suppressed you become Sisyphus   carrying responsibilities towards the steep peak of life and you forget once you were self obsessively in love, once you were completely different from a machine that you have become now.


That might not be the end you wanted but that’s how it will end. The same mediocre love story which no one will recall. Love stories generally end at marriage. After marriage vision and compassion get replaced by compromise and tolerance and a new chapter of acceptance begins you become life partners from lovers which are completely different terms. 


If you believe in the concept of soul mate this is not the story you want to hear. Why are you even reading this? Go out get a life, you never know may be someone somewhere in this vast universe is just made for you. 

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