Dear Sadichha,
I am a 25-year-old guy currently working as a waiter at a restaurant in Australia. After completing my high school, I came here for further studies. However, I dropped out of college after sometime and started working instead. I regret leaving college and want to continue my studies but my visa is expiring in a few months. I have earned a lot of money but I don’t have an academic degree that my parents expect me to bring home. What do I do now?
Did you start regretting only after finding out that your visa was about to expire? If you really want to study then don’t make excuses. Instead, find ways to extend your visa and complete your studies. There may have been various factors that influenced you in making your choice. Working and earning money feels great. It will make you appear independent, but don’t lose your focus from your main goal in life. There will be many challenges and many distractions but one has to learn to multitask. Do not deviate from your path. If there is any way you can continue your studies, go for it. If you have to return after your visa expires, come back and get yourself enrolled with the money you have earned.
Dear Sadichha,
I am a 23-year-old lady and I work for a company in Kathmandu. I have been secretly in love with one of my colleagues for a year but can’t confess my feelings because I fear he might reject me. But recently, my boss proposed to me. I wasn’t expecting this at all. I still like my colleague, but I am sure he already has a woman in his life. Now I am wondering whether I should accept my boss’s proposal or not. Can you please suggest me what should I do?
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That is quite a turn of events. Do you like your boss? I think one of the biggest dilemmas in life is choosing between someone you love and someone who loves you. Some people are lucky; they get the best of both worlds. If you have any feelings for your boss, I suggest you explore that first. Is he a good man? Take your time to think about it. If you don’t have any, make up your mind and refuse his proposal. I am asking you to make a decision regarding your boss’s proposal first as I don’t want you to keep him as an option – relationship and people’s emotions are not to be played around with. Once you are sorted with the answer to the proposal, talk to your colleague and express how you feel about him, and see if he feels the same way back about you too.
Dear Sadichha,
I am a 19-year-old high school student. Most of my friends have girlfriends; I find it quite annoying. I have not found the love of my life yet. Due to this, my friends call me homosexual. They have also spread a rumor that I am gay. My study is being affected by all such activities. Can you please suggest what I should do to invite peace in my life? Is ignoring a better option?
Very few people are fortunate to find the love of their lives at 19! Good things take time, remember that. You don’t need to prove your sexuality to your friends or anyone else. So, please don’t take such stupid steps, of having a girlfriend, just because of the rumors. I know bullying can have severe effects on one’s mental and emotional health. Ignoring is definitely a good option. Don’t engage in such futile conversations or interactions. However, if the bullying goes out of hand, and you feel like you can’t take it anymore, I suggest you talk to them and ask nicely, if not you can always go to your teachers or the principal. I hope they will take some actions against it. Focus on performing better in your studies. Also, make a good company of friends; people who spread rumors about someone just because they don’t have a girlfriend are not the type of company you would want to keep.
Dear Sadichha,
I am a 17-year-old guy. I recently completed my SEE and joined college. I was interested in management but my parents forced me to join science because they want to see me doing well as a doctor. My grades are pretty good. I wanted to pursue my career in management but they don’t seem to understand. I talked with my parents and teachers but everyone has the doctor fever. I am really scared for my future. I know science is not my cup of tea. Can you please tell me what I should do to escape from this terrible situation?
So, you have already started your college? You say you are doing well in your studies, but are you happy? Also, if you decide to take up management, you’ll have to start over again. At the end of your question, you mentioned that you were in a terrible situation. If you find yourself in a miserable position, I suggest being more adamant and confident about your own decision. If science is not what you want, stop wasting your time going to college to study science. However, it is a different story if you aren’t sure about what you want to do. If you are sure, then you can and should convince your parents of your choice. It is not them who will have to live with the regret of not pursuing their dreams. I started with I.Sc and studied science too; I enjoyed all of it. But in the end, I knew that science was not my cup of tea and shifted from science to management. I am happy with the choice I made. In Nepal, if one studies management people assume it’s because they aren’t smart enough but that’s not the truth. One needs to be smart and hard working to excel in any field. So, continue talking about this with your parents and make your choice, for yourself.
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