2 days ago
Talk things out before making decisions in hurry
I am a 29-year-old woman working at a corporate house for the past eight years. I used to enjoy my work earlier. However I have slowly began losing interest from my work. This is because I feel I have spent a long time in the same organization doing the same thing. I am convincing myself to keep up with the daily routine. However, I always return home feeling drained. And this has been impacting me and my work. I am currently planning to study abroad but my family is not happy with the decision. They suggest me to keep working and get married soon. Choosing to stay in Nepal shall give me security and identity but with no sense of purpose while going abroad shall open doors for me that I have never experienced before. I am in a tough dilemma. Please help me out.
I think you already know what you want to do. You live once, if you play it safe and live your life the way other people want you to, you will never truly be happy. If you really want to go out and study, start looking at the options you have. Everyone should be able to live their life in their own terms. I can understand your parents’ concern over you leaving a stable job and taking a risk but if you don’t take chances in life you will never get to know how amazing life can be! If you decide against going out and giving in to the pressure of the family I hope you find ways to make your job interesting. Maybe, you can talk to the HR and see if you can be moved to a different department with additional responsibilities or you can look out for vacancies in other organizations too. A new office will definitely give your life a freshness of some sort. So, keep yourself fresh first and then make the decisions.
I am an 18-year-old guy. There was a girl who I used to see sometimes during college. I knew her name but I couldn’t gathercourage to talk to her then. However, after our graduation, I started talking to her online. We have been talking ever since. I haven’t had courage to confess my feelings to her. I fear that if I do let her know she might stop talking to me as she is quite unpredictable at times. I need your help on this. What should I do? Shall I confess my feelings now or take time to understand whether she likes me or not.
Well, if you would forever just like to talk to her online, only then it’s not a problem. You can just do that. However, if you want to take a step further and see her being a part of your life then take that step and confess to her. One can never really assume what is going on someone’s mind until you ask them and they tell you. So, meet her, talk to her face to face and see what she says. Don’t complicate things by over thinking. Once you ask her face to face and get your answer you can decide on what to do next. If she says she has feelings for you too then it’s a good start but if she says she doesn’t have feelings for you and just takes you as a friend then that should be okay with you too.
I am 26. I am a guy. I am the only child of my parents and they are very protective of me. I have been a good student throughout my life and have been a responsible person. However, they interfere in my priorities at times. As of lately, they are having problems with the girl I am dating. They say they would want a girl fromsimilar class and status that we belong to. We have been in a relationship for the past two years now. I have seriously considered our future together. I also want my parents to be by my side. I am tired of convincing them. What would be the best option to solve this problem?
I would just like to go ahead and mention that ‘You’ would be spending the rest of ‘your life’ with this girl. So, it’s important for you to be compatible with her. It’s 2018 and I feel we should all move past this caste system. Like I have mentioned many times before in my heart to heart column, the race or religion of a person doesn’t define how compatible you are with them. So, if you feel like she is the right girl for you and if you want your parents to support you, make sure they meet each other. Once they get to know each other and meet often, they will be fond of each other. Don’t give up easily. Try your best and try some more. Connections of hearts are rare. You should take that into consideration, and not the class and status one is from. I hope your parents see from your point of view also.
I am a 22-year-old girl. I recently graduated from one of the reputed educational institutions. I am fond of theater and want to study it. But my parents are not really happy with it. I have engaged myself in many plays and want to study the subject further. However, my parents want me to study something that would strongly secure my career and future for the long run. I cannot go against their decision. I am very confused on what to choose as a career. What do I do?
You are just 22, you have your whole life in front of you. Take decisions in the direction you want your life to head. If you really are interested and passionate about theater, go for it. It’s a growing industry in Nepal and all over the world. Your parents are just worried about you pursuing a career in theater as they feel you might not make a lot of money. But if you show them that there is a scope in this sector as well, I think they will understand it. Being concerned and worrying about our future is what parents do best. But as children we also need to reassure them and I feel all parents will be more than happy to see their children pursuing what they are passionate about.
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