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Dear Sadichha,

I am a 24-year-old guy. I am currently working in a Kathmandu based INGO. I am a workaholic person and I enjoy working. Recently I have been so occupied that I can't take out time for friends and my girlfriend. They get mad at me at times but I cannot help myself. I can't spend time with my girlfriend the way I used to before. This is not happening. At work, most of my colleagues are elder to me and I feel proud that I have secured much at a young age. But when I find my youthfulness lost in my work, I feel helpless. Now please suggest me what do I do?

I can relate to your problem! I consider myself a workaholic too and sometimes find myself in similar situation. It is very important to balance personal and professional life. It is not easy; it is challenging but also very important. You must be proud to be where you are at such a young age and that must drive you, motivate you to work harder, I can understand that, however, I will suggest you to draw some boundaries when it comes to work and how much time you give to it. One needs to have a life outside of work as well. It is not healthy to be too immersed in work. Take a trip with your family and your girlfriend. Allocate certain time after office to go on dates, or take your family out to dinner. Doing those activities will also motivate you to do better at work.

Dear Sadichha,

I am a 20-year-old girl currently studying in one of the colleges in Kathmandu. I enjoy going to college but lately I don't feel so. There is a teacher who behaves as if he likes me. He teases me and tries to flirt which makes me feel awkward. I told one of my friends and she says it's his habit that he deals with everyone in a funny way. I have not talked to him because I want take time and be sure about his intention. Or should I talk to him, hear him and clear this matter now?

If a teacher is making you feel uncomfortable then do talk to him about this. Don’t let it go, don’t just assume things either. Speak up, communicate and be clear about it if his actions are not making you feel comfortable. If you are sure he is doing that in purpose, ask him to stop. It’s better to be clear about things than to make assumptions.

Dear Sadichha,

I am a 26-year-old girl. I was applying abroad in an education visa but it recently got rejected due to medical issues that I had in the past. I have paid my time money and effort to study and get an international degree. I feel completely depressed about it. I can't let go off my dreams easily. Please help.

If your dream is to get an international degree then apply in other colleges. Don’t let it go because of one failed attempt. You keep trying to make that dream come true. If dreams and goals were so easy to achieve, everybody would have what they would want. Work hard towards your goal and be patient. Remember that good things take time. Don’t be depressed about a failure, let it go and move on. Start looking for other options, consult people who have faced similar situations and see how they succeeded. Learn from the mistakes they made and make changes in your approach.

Dear Sadichha,

I am a 28-year-old mother to a 4-year-old. I am planning to join my work after a gap of four years. My family does not want me to work but I think I should work because I have idle time at home after my daughter leaves for school. Isn’t it a good idea that I go to work and have a productive time?

I think it is a great idea to continue work and be productive with your time. Many women feel guilty for leaving their child and going to work but if your child goes to school then you have some free time for yourself. I suggest you start looking for work, I am sure finding work as easily as you wanting to work might not be possible, so don’t be disheartened. If you do have a work that you can go back to then it’s great. Also, working after a gap of four years might not be easy, so learn to slowly adjust into the work environment. I would also suggest you to not take a lot of stress regarding work as well. Decide what your priority will be for the time being and work accordingly.