KATHMANDU, Nov 26: “Most people think Kamasutra is about sex positions. It is not. Kamasutra is about manners - it is about how to be good,” said eminent writer and thinker Gurcharan Das, speaking at the curtain raiser of the IME Nepal Literature Festival 2018.
A lot of people remember this particular line from Kingsman: The Secret Service and it is rather appropriate for what I’m about to write on – manners at the cinema. Just for the record, manners maketh woman too, lest any ‘meninists’ (yes, there is such a thing) accuse me of being one sided or worse – sexist. Anyway, I was at a sold out cinema last week watching Sanju and it was anything but an enjoyable experience. I will readily admit that I’m a fussy movie goer – fussier than most – but even for a person with high levels of tolerance, a trip to the cinema here can really test your patience right from the moment you park to the time you leave.
In Kingsman: The Secret Service, the oh-so-charming Colin Firth repeatedly turns to this proverb when some behaves badly and unfortunately, not unlike the ‘bad’ characters in the movie that never seem to get it, there are plenty of people I meet on a regular basis who seem to be equally clueless about good manners. Why bother with niceties when you can be obnoxious and get your way is the thought process that seems to dominate quite a few mindsets.
Good manners are very important. A person is not known by his/her family name but by manners. An ill-mannered person is not better than a beast. People send their children to good schools so that they become well mannered. Good manners win love and respect.
It’s amazing how people don’t think their behaviors affect others especially when they are out in public and continue being their obnoxious selves. Saying sorry doesn’t even occur to them because apologies are for the low life.