So I would suggest you go on a trip, a mind-cleansing trip. Use your savings. Go somewhere out of the country. Maybe to the sand beaches where the weather is nice and treat yourself to the best you can. Try yoga, maintain a healthy life.
I am a 23-year-old girl and I recently graduated from one of the universities in India. I came to India five years ago and here I fell in love with an Indian guy. But now that I have completed my studies, my parents have been expecting me to come home and start working in Nepal. I can’t even tell my parents about my boyfriend because I really don’t think they would be happy as I am not independent as I have yet to achieve many things in my career. I can’t even think of staying in a long distance relationship but my boyfriend says I should first be independent and later convince our families to get married. My parents are eagerly waiting for my return but I am not prepared to go back. Please help me with your suggestions.
The law gives us the rights to sexual and reproductive health. That means no one can force a woman into having children. It is up to the woman when and how she wants it as long as she is of age and sound health. Healthwise, it is suggested to have the first child by 30. Globally 35 plus moms are put under “older” category considering their age.
Your ex has mental issues which he needs to sort out before he leads anyone into his life. Being drunk and abusive is not normal. He is an alcoholic and he needs to go to rehab. So don’t put the blame on to yourself. It’s high time that women stop making themselves feel guilty about not being able to “save” or “cure” a man. It is not our duty. We might do it out of love but that is not just what women are meant for.
KATHMANDU, August 18: Former Miss Nepal Malvika Subba and Lumbini Academic Collage (LAC) Chabhil, Chuchepati has announced the recipients of the Malvika Subba Scholarship on Thursday. The scholarship has been awarded to two indigent and diligent girls studying in grade 11 at LAC.
I am a 23-year-old-girl. I have been in a relationship with a guy and I have never been so serious for anyone. Everything was fine until I asked him to get married after being in the relationship for almost four years. We were independent and responsible by then. He said he hadn't thought about it, and after sometime suddenly broke up with me. He told me that he never had any feelings for me and we both were not meant to be with each other. I cannot figure out why he is behaving in such manner. He has always been there for me in my good and bad times and whenever I try to convince him, he says we can’t continue our relationship anymore. I really love him and don't want to quit like this. I don’t know what to do. Please suggest me.
I am a 28-year-old married woman. I got married nearly a year ago. We live apart for our jobs and meet once in two months or so. Things were good in the beginning. I was convinced that he loves and supports me. I was also sure that I had similar feelings for him. But recently, things are not going well between us.
I am a 21-year-old woman and I recently finished my college but I still feel haven’t found anything that will make me want to pursue it with passion. I have tried doing many things (sports, new subjects, job in different sectors) but none of them got me excited enough to say, ‘that’s what I want!’. I don’t have a future goal, a goal to achieve. I am confused and lost so I seek answers from others but none of them satisfy me. It makes me frustrated that I am wasting my time being worthless. I was recently going through Miss Nepal’s website and was looking through previous year’s photos, and then I came across yours. I saw your profile where it said, “Her ambition is to be a famous media personality”. I thought to myself “she knew what she wanted to be in the future from the very beginning, she worked hard for it and she achieved too”. I really envied that and wished that I knew what I wanted to be. I wanted to ask you how did you realized your dream at such a young age. Did something trigger in you like, “yes, that’s it! That’s what I want to be” or was it something you had to build inside? How can I realize my future goal?
I am a 22-year-old woman currently living abroad. Me and my boyfriend work together. We have been together for almost two and a half years. Our relationship went beautifully for one and a half year. But, he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. He said that he wants to grow and make a good career but I think as we both are in a same profession it’ll be easier for both of us to grow together. I have always been supportive to him and he also supports me but not the way he used to. I know he loves me but he never shows his emotions. He now wants me to move on and wants to see change in me. But it’s really hard for me to move on. It hurts so much to know that he no longer wants me. I have cried a lot and every time I think of him, it reminds me of those beautiful days we spent together which have turned into memories now. I always try to make him understand how I need him but he seems to get irritated and has stopped talking to me now. I feel like dying. What should I do?
I am a 17- year- old girl currently taking a year gap after high school to prepare for MBBS entrance examination. I want to study environmental science as I am really passionate about it but I have not been able to share it with my parents. They are obsessed with me being a doctor and would go to any extent to make me one but that’s not what I want. I tried to tell them once but I could not because it felt like I was deceiving them and was shattering their dreams. I feel weak and cannot even utter a word whenever I think of telling them about my passion. I have been over thinking lately and feel depressed and get frequent suicidal thoughts because I feel like I can never fulfill my parents dreams and my own too. Whenever I try to think of any other way of convincing, I am afraid of the shame they’ll have to face because of me .I don’t know what to do .I can’t even concentrate and have become an insomniac .There’s nobody I can share my thoughts with and feel really helpless. How do I convince my parents?
I am a 20- year- old girl and have been in a relationship with a guy for 3 years now. He is a great guy and I love him and so does he. However, he is very ambitious and goal-oriented and I have pretty average ambitions compared to his, which is not a problem as that is one of the things I like about him, but sometimes I feel like I am not enough for him. Maybe it’s his way of motivating me and it does help at times but sometimes “why can’t you do that? / you should have done that” doesn’t really help a lot when you are feeling down and want to hear “it’s okay”. Everyone loves a hard-working and ambitious person and he is not different. I know he loves me but I feel like if he sees me failing/procrastinating/slacking off at times he might fall out of love. I fear to do things in front of him because I have a fear of failure and not being enough for him and he prefers a girl with an opposite attitude towards life just like everyone else. When I try to talk to him about this, it just doesn’t go through him. He is more of like “find a way to win” or “if you fall, don’t cry just stand up and run”. It’s hard to make him understand that people”cry” too. Most of the times he is right logically so I cannot say a lot to him but it’s mentally and emotionally tiring to always be the best of you. We love each other and are doing great so I don’t want to ruin this relationship by over thinking but I just feel like he’ll find me weak and won’t like me anymore. And also I feel like if I become like him, it won’t be the real me; instead, I’ll just be his substitute. Help me from over-thinking. What should I do?
I am a 16-year-old girl. Up until recently my world was perfect. A week ago ,I found out that I was adopted and now I don’t know what to do. I am shocked, feel hurt and betrayed. Why would my parents hide this from me? When I asked them about this, they told me that I was too small to know the truth and that they were just trying to protect me. Now I feel betrayed by people who have nurtured me. I am really confused and finding it hard to accept the real fact. What should I do?
I’m a 24-year-old woman and have been living in the US for the past five years. I am still single, but my manager at work who is a 37-year-old divorced man has been showing interest in me. He says he loves me. Lately, I have realized that I too have feelings for him, but the age difference between us scares me. We still haven’t gone on our first date, but still see each other at work every day. Please suggest me if I should approach him or leave the matter where it is now.
I am a 25-year-old woman and my husband has been asking for divorce for the past few months. We have been married for five years now and have a five-month-old baby. But he is in love with another girl. The problem is I do not know whether he would take responsibility of our child after the divorce. He has never taken any responsibility so far. I work, while he just spends his parents’ money. It hurts to see him chat with her and meet her. I am not sure if I should set him free or try to save our relationship? He wants a mutual divorce, but I am not sure if I can do it.
I am 25- year- old woman and my parents are talking about my marriage. As this will be an arranged marriage, I know very little about my soon to be husband. I am ready to get married but I have been hiding a dark secret about my life till now. At the age of 8, I was sexually abused by one of my so-called relatives. At that time I didn’t have any idea what he was doing and he had threatened me that if I talked to anyone about this matter my parents would beat me up and ask me to leave the house. He abused me many times. I used to cry but he had frightened me so much that I couldn’t tell anyone. This stopped after he moved away but those scars are still fresh on my mind and I hate myself for letting him do that. I haven’t been able to forget that incident till now. I am scared that my soon to be husband will find out that I am not a virgin. Should I reveal my past to him? I am scared that this would ruin our future relationship. Please tell me what I should do? Should I share my past with him or conceal it?
I am 24-year -old woman working in an international organization which has given me social respect. Few months back when I did not have the job, I was depressed. I worked hard to get a job with descent salary and post. However, the problem is that my job is opposite to my personality. My work does not require much interaction with other people and is based on a strict routine. I really don’t know why but I don’t want to do this job anymore. I can’t even change this job because I am still not sure about what I want to do out of my life. I have explored few areas but still I am not sure which sector would be best for me. I have even thought of doing an MBA, thinking that it will give me better exposure. Is it a good idea? I can’t even leave the job and take risks as I am the only breadwinner. I feel lost. I have responsibilities but I am not happy. I am in an emotional turmoil. How do I understand myself better? What should I do?
I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy a month ago. I went through depression and stress because I was forced to get pregnant by my family. I have been having problem to accept my new role as a mother. Despite all the stress, I find my baby beautiful and I love him but I just feel that I won’t be able to be a good mother and keep questioning my identity. What should I do now? How can I be mentally healthy and accept the joys of motherhood that people talk about?
I am a mother of two beautiful girls, 10 and 15 years old. I divorced my husband. My daughters are amazing but they blame me for not being able to see their father. I have requested my husband to visit the girls, spend time with them and explain the situation to them but he has ignored all my requests. How do I explain to my daughters that I am not the one to blame for what has happened to our family? How do I tell them that their father won’t visit them because he is ashamed of his infidelity and has a too big of an ego to accept his mistake? I don’t want my daughters to disrespect their father because of what happened between me and him, but I want them to understand that I can’t be his wife anymore. How do I do this?
I recently completed my Bachelor’s degree and have started working. I have been in a long distance relationship for 6 years and my boyfriend wants me to try for the US but the problem is I have already been rejected twice and I am afraid of failing again. Furthermore if I go to the US, I will have to change my major. My boyfriend is amazing but I am afraid of losing him and my career. What should I do?
I am a 16 year-old girl and my father is an alcoholic. He is well educated and has a well paying job but his behavior towards me and my mother is bad. I can feel my family tearing apart and want to bring my family together. Please suggest me few ideas.
I was born a male but found out I was a woman about five years ago. In a society so rigid I’m scared that no one will accept me. There are only three people who know about me being a transgender. My boyfriend is very loving and fully supports me, yet he is scared that people will criticize him too. My younger sister is more supportive of me than my brother. I haven’t had the courage to tell my parents. Recently the subject of my marriage was approached by one of my relatives and I’m scared my parents will marry me to a girl who I will never love. I don’t know how to come out to my parents. I feel like this is the perfect time to take action. But I have no idea what to do? Please suggest some ideas.
I am a new mother. I am struggling to get back to the body I used to have before I delivered my baby. I do work out and recently even tried to go under a new diet but nothing seems to work. I want to get back to the body I used to have. Could you please give me tips for post-pregnancy weight loss?
I don’t like my boyfriend chatting to this particular girl secretly on Facebook and Viber. I had issue with this particular girl in past and now she is married. Their unexplained friendship bothers me as it reminds me of the past issue I had with her. When I talk to my boyfriend about this, he says that they are not close enough like before and he isn’t texting her these days and neither is she. But he is somehow always hoping for her whereabouts texts. I can’t tell him that these things bother me and ask him to totally cut off with this girl because I don’t want to be the ‘jealous girlfriend’ but can’t help myself whenever I feel they are enjoying each other’s company. What shall I do?
I have been in a relationship with a guy since 9 years. His parents didn’t like me from the start but we were hopeful that they would change their mind overtime. They haven’t accepted our relationship till now because of the differences in our caste. He hasn’t been able to convince his parents and I feel that he now regrets staying in the relationship with me. I talked to him but he says he can’t choose between me and his parents. I don’t know how to continue our relationship anymore. What should I do?
I have been in love with a guy for 2 years but he is in love with someone else. He knows I love him and every time I try to tell him how I feel he changes the subject. We are friends and sometimes I feel like he is playing with my emotions by staying friends with me. I have tried to maintain a distance from him but whenever I do that he ends up calling me and I can’t help but receive his call. I have tried to move on but it didn’t work, this situation is stressing me. What should I do?
I am a 29 year old married woman with 2 kids. I have been married for 10 years, for first few years my husband treated me like a queen. But as the time passed we started fighting over small things and stopped talking to each other. It has been months since we haven’t talked to each other although I have tried to apologize and sort things out. Whenever we get into fight my husband never tries to resolve it but instead goes out for many hours. He never apologizes and I am really stressed. I feel like our relationship has no life but I love him. I don’t know for how long I will be able to tolerate his behavior. Help me save my relationship.
I’ve been in relationship with a guy for five years. Everything was going good until now. I feel distant from him lately and don’t like his presence. I love him but don’t want to be around him. May be it’s because I want to focus more on my career. But I feel guilty. How can I save my relationship?