Heart To Heart with Sadichha

Life is all about getting up

November 14, 2018 11:22 AM Republica


Dear Sadichha,
I am a 27-year-old woman currently working for one of the business houses in Kathmandu. I have been working there for the past five years now and many things have changed over the years. My boss recently proposed to me. It came as a surprise because he is engaged to someone else. He told that he was engaged to his fiancé having a family tie with her. He says he wants to call off the marriage and wants to be with me. I like him but I think it would take me sometime to blend myself into the relationship. If he accepts me, that would make it easier for both of us. However, if he gets married to his fiancé, would I not be the odd one out here?

Yes, you would definitely be the odd one. When did your boss propose to you? Did he ever tell you that he liked you? Do you like him?  I suggest you evaluate and really understand if he truly means what he is saying. Why don’t you ask him and get a clear perspective? And a man who gets engaged to someone just because their families are close and breaks it up for someone who he has never confessed his love to. Would you really want to be with someone like him? He might just be getting a cold foot and needs an excuse to break off the engagement. So, I would encourage you to really understand the truth here and wisely make your decision. 

Dear Sadichha,
I am a 32-year-old guy. I was into a couple of businesses until I faced a big loss and had to shut down my work. I had borrowed loans from friends and family which I could not pay instantly, since my businesses failed. I am also thinking of moving abroad but my friends have been offering me to join some jobs here. However, I fear if it could give me enough profit to clear the loans I am indebted to. I hope to seek your guidance.

You are 32, don’t be disappointed with life or at yourself already. You need to be patient and try harder. If your friends are offering jobs here I suggest you to take a good look at the options you have here. Living or working abroad is not easy. You will not have many friends or family in a foreign land like you do here. So, try again. Life is all about getting up after a fall, dusting yourself, learning from that mistake and moving ahead. If you give up after every failure you might never see success. Hence, I highly encourage you to look at the options you have here, I am sure your friends and family will be considerate of your difficulties and help you overcome it. All the best! 

Dear Sadichha,
I am a 22-year-old girl studying law at one of the institutions in Kathmandu. My parents want me to get married with an established guy from a well-off family. When I think of it, I tend to have mixed feelings. On one hand, I feel its okay to get married, if I get to continue my study after my marriage.  On the other hand, I tend to have many questions running in my head on whether it is the right decision. I would like to hear upon your suggestions on this.

Like you said, if you feel like you can study even after you get married, then why not? However, if you feel marriage and new relations is not what you want at the moment then wait until you get done with your studies. Why don’t you talk to your parents? Maybe meet the guy and see what kind of a person he is, what his thoughts are on this topic? I hope you weren’t ready to get married without meeting and knowing the person. If the two of you click and like each other, then you can decide together and take the next step. However, I would want you to prioritize your studies and not discontinue it. Because I think as women, we should not limit our identity to that of a wife or a mother. I am not saying that it is bad, but we can also be so much more along with fulfilling those roles. 

Dear Sadichha,
I am a 24-year-old girl. I am currently working as a freelance photographer. I have completed my bachelor’s last year and have taken a gap year since. I wish to study photography but since it’s more of practice here, I am seeking to study photography abroad. For now I am looking out for scholarship as it is quite costly. However, I have not been able to get any despite having applied several times. I am confused whether I take another year off and apply for scholarships or join any other subjects this year. Please help.

Where do you mean when you say abroad? I know there are many good institutes in India that teach photography. Why don’t you try there? I believe it would be less costly compared to America or Australia. So, look into India and the institutes there. Meanwhile also look for institutes here in Nepal that give you a diploma or training courses. Since you are already working as a freelance photographer, extra knowledge and training will help you be better. Also, look for more part time or full time work and manage your studies in the evening or morning if you find the course that you are looking for here in Nepal.  I would suggest not to take more breaks but get yourself enrolled into the best option you can find at the moment. 

 


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