Dear Sadichha, 
I am a 19-year-old boy, and I recently finished my high school. I am uncertain about what I am going to do in the future. Going abroad for further studies is the most preferred option for me, so far, but my parents do not show interest in this decision that I’ve taken for my future. They suggest studying here explaining about all those financial problems, which is very true. I have now been interested in studying BIM, but unfortunately, I chose BBS thinking that it might be easier for me to get through the exams, which hasn’t been the case yet. Have I taken the right decision? If not, Please help me in this situation. I would really appreciate your suggestion.

If you are confident that you can get a scholarship for your studies abroad, by all means, go for your first choice. It is fair on your parents’ side to be clear about their financial situation with you. However, you shouldn’t give in to challenges. So, chase after your dreams of studying outside. Apply to the colleges you want to enroll in and see what will happen. Also, life isn’t about getting through your exams; it’s about enjoying what you do. It is quite obvious that if you study something that you are interested in, you will automatically put more effort into performing your best. While on the other hand, if you study something you aren’t really interested in, you wouldn’t really be happy about it and could possibly regret your decision later. So, if you still have time to change your subjects, I suggest that you study what you are interested in.

Dear Sadichha, 
I am a 25-year-old girl currently working in an NGO. I am very ambitious and want to go far in my career. However, I am stuck with a problem. I like a guy. But I see no future with him. He stays in Great Britain and is a British Army. It is difficult for him to leave his work for me, while I also don’t want to leave my parents and my work in Nepal. I want to settle in Nepal and start my own business here. I want both of my wishes to be fulfilled as it has been difficult for me to choose over another. Personally speaking, letting go of either of the two is difficult. Kindly let me know what you would do if something similar happened to you as well?

It’s often difficult to get all the things we want in life. You have mentioned that you see no future with the guy then I wonder why are you are in a dilemma? If he’s a British Army, I believe there are very fewer chances of him coming here and settling here without him is quite not an option for you. However, if you want him to come back to Nepal, why don’t you try asking him one more time? If he can’t come back for you, I suggest you go after your ambitious dreams and work hard to make them into a reality. It can be difficult, but it will be worth it in the long run.  

Dear Sadichha, 
I am a 27-year-old girl and I am currently working in a government office. I am satisfied with my job. However, my family has been looking for a guy as they want me to get married and start a family soon. The problem is that I am in a relationship with another guy for the past seven years. I can’t gather up the courage to tell introduce him to my parents as he doesn’t have a stable job. I am quite sure that my parents will refuse this relationship but we are really into each other. What do you suggest that I do? How can I convince my parents to accept him?

You have been in a relationship with a guy for seven years and how come you haven’t told your parents about it. The first thing you need to do is tell them about him. You never know, their answer might surprise you. Also, if he doesn’t have a stable job but the two of you want to get married and settle down then I suggest he start looking for a stable job or starting his own business and become more serious about the future. All parent ever wants is for their children, their daughter in your case, to be well taken care of. You are happy and satisfied with your job, so if you are confident that your job and earnings can support the two of you then I see no problem why your parents won’t be okay with him. Given that the guy also starts being serious. 

Dear Sadichha, 
I am an 18-year-old guy from Bhaktapur. I finished my high school this year but have not decided what subjects I want for my bachelors. I am quite keen on photography but my parents won’t allow me to choose it as my career. I do take pictures on a regular basis with my friend’s DSLR. However, I want to take various courses and formally study the subject. I am confused. What should I do?

Photography is a booming career. However, it is not an easy one. It’s also not a cheap profession; you say you have been taking pictures through your friend’s DSLR. Why haven’t you gotten a camera for yourself if you are that interested in photography? Please think about it deeply and separate your hobby from your passion. I suggest you talk to friends, family, and relatives who have chosen this field and hear from their experience. If photography is really your true calling, then tell your parents about that. And also look for photography courses to get enrolled in. But whatever it might be, do continue your studies. You can always attend workshops and take training to get better at photography.  

Send your questions to 
gennext@myrepublica.com or mycity@myrepublica.com with the subject line “Gennext-Heart to Heart with Sadichha” or post it on our facebook page at facebook.com/gennextnepal.