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Ushma Rebel

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Celebrating the heroes

Published On: March 8, 2020 10:25 AM NPT By: Ushma Rebel

Who comes to your mind when you think of influential, inspirational people? How many actually think of women trailblazers? And are those inspiring women internationally or nationally known? Celebrities? Writers? Pop stars? Political leaders? Media personalities ? I know, majority will answer that with an affirmative nod.

Sense and insensitivity

Published On: December 29, 2019 11:33 AM NPT By: Ushma Rebel

I woke up with a sense of panic. Being a single parent meant my kids would starve if I got sick and I had been very unwell for few days. Then I saw my sixteen-year-old boy cooking in the kitchen. Sense of relief awash, I looked at my two-and-a-half- years-old toddler. She was already fed and changed. My sixteen-year-old son shouldn’t have to be a parent or a guardian to his half sister and his mum.

How I suffered violence

Published On: August 1, 2019 01:30 AM NPT By: Ushma Rebel

Women are still being character-assassinated. How many more suffering women does it take to change Nepali society’s mindset toward domestic abuse?

Sex and society

Published On: May 19, 2019 02:05 AM NPT By: Ushma Rebel

When I first heard the word nymphomaniac, I loved its exotic sound. I didn’t understand what it meant at that time. But it just sounded so posh. Or so a 12-13 year old me thought at that time.

My homecoming

Published On: April 27, 2019 01:05 AM NPT By: Ushma Rebel

Many had warned me that my visit to Nepal would only disappoint me, that the romanticized notion of excitement and inner peace which I had imagined about the visit would burst as a bubble. Firstly because it was too short to experience real beauty of Nepal, secondly because I was going after a long hiatus and I would probably be put off by the pollution and crammed suffocation in the city, thirdly because everyone is bound to treat visitors nicely and therefore it wouldn’t be an indication of how people would actually behave with me in a different long-term context.

We all need Nepal

Published On: February 28, 2019 01:30 AM NPT By: Ushma Rebel

Nepal doesn’t need me or any foreign-endorsed people like me. It’s us who need Nepal, to experience, to love, to live, to praise, to savor, to relax and to be content

It’s men’s work too

Published On: February 2, 2019 12:15 AM NPT By: Ushma Rebel

I’ve noticed so many youths these days, regardless of what gender they are, being brought up so focused on importance of education and success that even their parents spare them from the housework as if home chores were unnecessary “hardships” that they are allowed to refrain from. I was one such spoilt brat. I was raised by a single mother and she considered education above everything and she always told us that we will eventually learn housework when are married.

Preventing PPD

Published On: December 25, 2018 01:30 AM NPT By: Ushma Rebel

Post-partum depression is a real disease as much as diabetes, hypertension or cancer. Just because it isn’t a tangible form of illness doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist Nepal

Let women decide

Published On: October 14, 2018 02:00 AM NPT By: Ushma Rebel

It’s a long way for Nepali women to freely choose their partners as they want, when they want and how they want, pre-wedding or post-divorce

Tough going for Nepali students

Published On: September 30, 2018 02:00 AM NPT By: Ushma Rebel

Nepali students in Australia are vulnerable and are undergoing harshest of physical work, financial crisis, academic pressure and mental stress

Together we should care

Published On: September 16, 2018 12:20 AM NPT By: Ushma Rebel

I struggle to come to terms with some aspects of culture—the culture where while some trailblazer women are fighting for their right to light the funeral pyre of their deceased parents, others are still using excuses to avoid helping their frail and financially dependent parents and the culture where daughters are claiming equal rights in parental property, but do not share the responsibility of parental care.