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Usha Pokharel

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Dealing with children with learning disability

Published On: February 16, 2020 11:44 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

A few years ago, during an interaction with school children, I noticed a few children behaving differently. I thought they were just shy, but there was one hyperactive child.  I asked the teacher’s permission to interact closely with the child.  I suspected learning disabilities in the child. Initially, they were reluctant to acknowledge it, but later, they agreed with me. This is just one example.

Train of thoughts

Published On: February 1, 2020 10:05 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

The morning started as usual, but by the time I finished my first cup of tea, it turned out to be rather interesting. As I was surfing through the news portals, I came across a report that Apple would soon come up with a single device to charge all its products.  The news was all about wireless charging. Upon sharing this news with my family, the conversation automatically diverted to a discussion on the advancement of science through the years.  This reminded me of my conversation with my eldest son some years ago.  I remember him telling me about one of his friends’ success with the wireless charging technology.

Crossing the divide

Published On: January 18, 2020 08:25 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

In this era of ‘me too’ and ‘acid attacks’, we are hearing more men and boys making the same type of mistakes again and again.  Under such circumstances, I think it is time we asked ourselves: Where did we go wrong while raising our boys? Are we still influenced by our patriarchal society’s male preference? Frankly speaking, I don’t have the answers to these questions, but male preference is gradually decreasing.

Raising confident children

Published On: January 4, 2020 01:57 PM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

If parents take failure positively and encourage their children to keep trying, then their children will learn valuable life skills of not giving up

Pregnancy from man’s perspective

Published On: December 21, 2019 08:52 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

My readers might be thinking, ‘why am I talking about this topic?’ The other day I was talking to some young parents about their experience of dealing with pregnancy. I was surprised to find out that most of them had played no role during their wife’s pregnancy. They had their parents and other extended family helping out during the whole period and of course after the child was born. Although they showed ‘I don’t care’ attitude, I am pretty sure they were equally excited. It’s just in our culture men feel awkward showing their emotions in public. After all, they are men and emotions are for the weaker being like a woman.

Dealing with anxiety

Published On: December 7, 2019 12:54 PM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

I know you all are wondering, ‘what is the connection between anxiety disorder, youth, and meditation?’ There is a relation between all three of the above. The other day I had an opportunity to interact with some National college students regarding their struggle with anxiety. It was an opportunity for me to understand their struggles and the causes of their anxiety.

To believe or not to believe

Published On: November 23, 2019 09:31 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

In Nepal, we follow plenty of superstitions without even thinking twice.  We have them engrained so well in our day to day affairs that we act first and then think about them. The other day during dinner I asked for a green chilly.  My grandson brought one to me and put it in a plate, though I had my hand out.  Traditionally chilly is not put directly in someone’s hand.  He also believed putting a chilly directly into someone’s hand invites fighting. Later I thought about it and had a good laugh. I don’t think he even considered it for a bit, because it had become a habit where certain things are done spontaneously.  The above incident reminded me of another instance from a long time ago.

Journey with dolls

Published On: November 10, 2019 12:30 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

In Greece and Rome, upon reaching puberty boys dedicated their toys to the Gods and girls dedicated their toys to Goddesses when they married

Smile, you are on camera

Published On: October 26, 2019 01:00 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

For parents, attempting to harvest their children’s creativity through photography is a real challenge. Yet, you can always give them a camera and see how it works out

Making most of vacations

Published On: October 13, 2019 01:00 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

During this vacation, spend time communicating with your children and understanding their needs. It is important for children and parents to understand each other

Give time to your kids

Published On: September 28, 2019 12:30 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

You need to focus on turning the scarce time into something memorable for both you and your children. Once you commit, you will figure out a way to do that

How to praise your child?

Published On: September 14, 2019 12:30 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

I have chosen a pleasant topic to discuss. It is natural for you to praise when your children do good. It is a basic thing to do because children consider praise a reward.

Understanding disability

Published On: August 31, 2019 01:05 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

Parents please don’t make a face just yet. This is a very important topic.  When I start to talk for the rights of people with disability, I often get asked if someone in my family has some form of disability because I do not have any disability.  Without my glasses, I would be one. Let us face it. Challenges to a person’s health can happen to anyone, at any age and at any time.  Just remember those people impacted by the earthquake. They were abled people before.  Now within a very short time they have become people with disability.  Their lives have changed.

Let the teens sleep

Published On: August 17, 2019 01:25 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

It’s already time for school and your teenager is still not ready to wake up.  You tried multiple times to wake him/her up without success.  It’s been a constant struggle ever since your child became a teenager.  You expected with age your child would change his/her behavior.  It changed, but for the worse.  He/she started sleeping more. You are frustrated.

Teaching babies to sleep

Published On: August 3, 2019 01:30 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

We have been making the babies sleep in our own way but babies gradually need to learn to fall asleep by themselves. Sleep training helps them

For whom the bell tolls

Published On: July 20, 2019 01:30 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

The sound of the bell breaks the train of thoughts of a person and helps to focus the mind and make it more receptive

Sari: A thing of beauty

Published On: July 6, 2019 02:00 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

Regardless of whether you are slim or tall, sari suits everyone and brings the feminine side of women. You just need to know how to wear it

Why teachers are important

Published On: June 22, 2019 01:05 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

A teacher’s importance is very well represented by the above doha.  If both God and teacher were standing together, who would you respect first? It asks. Giving due respect to the teacher Kabir says, ‘I would respect the teacher first, who would then show me the way to reach God’. It is a very simple thought, but a very heavy one at that. You might be thinking ‘who are you to tell us about a teacher?’  I agree with you.  It is beyond me to explain the complexities of a guru/ teacher, still this week I felt like writing about the importance of being a teacher.  Now that I have decided to write, I better tell you why teachers are important in our life.

My pedicure session

Published On: June 8, 2019 01:25 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

I am not a fan of surprises, but sometimes these surprises are fun. One such surprise happened to me few weeks back.  The surprise was one session of pedicure.  I have to accept that it was an opportunity to experience the pleasures of modern pedicure for the first time in my life.  When I was asked if I wanted to participate in this experience, at first, I was not sure and was almost tempted to deny, but at the end I accepted it.

Longing for the past

Published On: May 25, 2019 12:25 AM NPT By: Usha Pokharel

The other day I read a Facebook post which said “I saw a guy at Starbucks.  He had no smartphone, tablet or laptop. He just sat there drinking his coffee like a psychopath.”  This really threw me back. Actually, I was troubled and shocked at the thought of someone who did not know the reality of the situation.  It made me think twice what this world had come to.  Not more than 30 years ago and even now in some parts of our country that’s exactly what people do in a coffee shop—sit and enjoy a cup of coffee without the distraction of modern-day gadgets.