A few years ago, during an interaction with school children, I noticed a few children behaving differently. I thought they were just shy, but there was one hyperactive child. I asked the teacher’s permission to interact closely with the child. I suspected learning disabilities in the child. Initially, they were reluctant to acknowledge it, but later, they agreed with me. This is just one example.
The morning started as usual, but by the time I finished my first cup of tea, it turned out to be rather interesting. As I was surfing through the news portals, I came across a report that Apple would soon come up with a single device to charge all its products. The news was all about wireless charging. Upon sharing this news with my family, the conversation automatically diverted to a discussion on the advancement of science through the years. This reminded me of my conversation with my eldest son some years ago. I remember him telling me about one of his friends’ success with the wireless charging technology.
In this era of ‘me too’ and ‘acid attacks’, we are hearing more men and boys making the same type of mistakes again and again. Under such circumstances, I think it is time we asked ourselves: Where did we go wrong while raising our boys? Are we still influenced by our patriarchal society’s male preference? Frankly speaking, I don’t have the answers to these questions, but male preference is gradually decreasing.
My readers might be thinking, ‘why am I talking about this topic?’ The other day I was talking to some young parents about their experience of dealing with pregnancy. I was surprised to find out that most of them had played no role during their wife’s pregnancy. They had their parents and other extended family helping out during the whole period and of course after the child was born. Although they showed ‘I don’t care’ attitude, I am pretty sure they were equally excited. It’s just in our culture men feel awkward showing their emotions in public. After all, they are men and emotions are for the weaker being like a woman.
I know you all are wondering, ‘what is the connection between anxiety disorder, youth, and meditation?’ There is a relation between all three of the above. The other day I had an opportunity to interact with some National college students regarding their struggle with anxiety. It was an opportunity for me to understand their struggles and the causes of their anxiety.
In Nepal, we follow plenty of superstitions without even thinking twice. We have them engrained so well in our day to day affairs that we act first and then think about them. The other day during dinner I asked for a green chilly. My grandson brought one to me and put it in a plate, though I had my hand out. Traditionally chilly is not put directly in someone’s hand. He also believed putting a chilly directly into someone’s hand invites fighting. Later I thought about it and had a good laugh. I don’t think he even considered it for a bit, because it had become a habit where certain things are done spontaneously. The above incident reminded me of another instance from a long time ago.
Parents please don’t make a face just yet. This is a very important topic. When I start to talk for the rights of people with disability, I often get asked if someone in my family has some form of disability because I do not have any disability. Without my glasses, I would be one. Let us face it. Challenges to a person’s health can happen to anyone, at any age and at any time. Just remember those people impacted by the earthquake. They were abled people before. Now within a very short time they have become people with disability. Their lives have changed.
It’s already time for school and your teenager is still not ready to wake up. You tried multiple times to wake him/her up without success. It’s been a constant struggle ever since your child became a teenager. You expected with age your child would change his/her behavior. It changed, but for the worse. He/she started sleeping more. You are frustrated.
A teacher’s importance is very well represented by the above doha. If both God and teacher were standing together, who would you respect first? It asks. Giving due respect to the teacher Kabir says, ‘I would respect the teacher first, who would then show me the way to reach God’. It is a very simple thought, but a very heavy one at that. You might be thinking ‘who are you to tell us about a teacher?’ I agree with you. It is beyond me to explain the complexities of a guru/ teacher, still this week I felt like writing about the importance of being a teacher. Now that I have decided to write, I better tell you why teachers are important in our life.
I am not a fan of surprises, but sometimes these surprises are fun. One such surprise happened to me few weeks back. The surprise was one session of pedicure. I have to accept that it was an opportunity to experience the pleasures of modern pedicure for the first time in my life. When I was asked if I wanted to participate in this experience, at first, I was not sure and was almost tempted to deny, but at the end I accepted it.
The other day I read a Facebook post which said “I saw a guy at Starbucks. He had no smartphone, tablet or laptop. He just sat there drinking his coffee like a psychopath.” This really threw me back. Actually, I was troubled and shocked at the thought of someone who did not know the reality of the situation. It made me think twice what this world had come to. Not more than 30 years ago and even now in some parts of our country that’s exactly what people do in a coffee shop—sit and enjoy a cup of coffee without the distraction of modern-day gadgets.