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How to deal with your quarter-life crises
Sometimes, dealing with life in your 20s becomes a bit tricky and complicated. This is the time when most try to find a foothold in the professional world, deal with emotional mess or experience love and heartbreak, perhaps for the first time. Then comes a phase when you realise life is not predictable and unlike what you witness in movies, the universe does not conspire to make things easy for you. There are days when you brood over the purpose of your existence and there are times when you brush your feelings under the carpet and motivate yourself to face the world. Finding it relatable, eh? When things do not turn out as expected, it can be an overwhelming and anxious feeling at times. Your quarter-life crisis might make you feel ‘adulting’ is hard, but you can surely get through it.
Relax. It’s normal
First of all, remember that you are not the only person in your twenties who is dealing with problems in life. Truth to be told, every phase of life has its own set of problems and all you need is to learn to deal with them.
Acknowledge this phase as a transition
Acknowledge your quarter-life crises as a phase of transition to adulthood. Your 20s are all about making mistakes, exploring yourself, learning your lessons and preparing yourself to deal with life ahead. Instead of over thinking and creating issues that never existed, take a deep breath and stop taking everything too seriously.
Change your perception
Sometimes, our unmet expectations lead to frustration and disappointment. We all have several grand plans and when these are not fulfilled, we see it as nothing but a huge personal failure. This is where we go wrong. What we need to do is to change our perception a bit and learn to view situations from a different angle. Maybe, you need to work harder to climb up the corporate ladder or your dream of travelling the world will come true only in your forties. All you need is patience, persistence and positivity, along with hard work; everything would eventually fall into place.
Mental detox is important
Whether we agree or not, most of us set unrealistic goals of how things should be. Intentionally or unintentionally, we end up comparing our lives with our friends and often lament over the things we don't have rather than being grateful for what we have. Therefore, we all need a mental detox in this digital era. Even if it's for a day, try taking a break from things that bring negativity in your life. Read good books, go for a walk, indulge in a spa and dedicate this day to boost your mental health. Trust us, you won’t regret it.
As we step into adulthood, most of us stop taking pleasure in the small joys of life. And thanks to our 9 to 5 jobs that push us to a corner and prevents us from sharing our grief or problems with friends and family. As per experts, many working professionals are stressed because they hardly talk to anyone about what's going on in their life. Hence, it's very important to share our feelings and frustrations with family and friends and it surely helps to feel lighter.
Respond, and not react
Many youngsters have this tendency to overreact to a situation, jump the gun and later repent their actions. What happens next? You add another so-called trouble in your life and do not realise it’s you who actually caused it in the first place. Of all the things that your 20s teaches you, one of the most crucial ones is to respond and not react. Think, think and think before you react to any situation and learn to give benefit of doubt to people, and you will save yourself from a lot of unwanted stress.
Everything is still in your hands!
Always remember that only you are responsible for creating your own happiness and in turn, be your own hero at the end of the day. Start counting your blessings while aspiring to achieve your goals in life, and learn to be hopeful in life. Life might not be at its best today but tomorrow is another day!
- by Republica
- by Associated Press
- by Republica
- by Sangita Shrestha