Dear Sadichha,

I am 18 years old boy. I like a girl who happens to be a bisexual. I just heard that she liked another girl who is straight. And only a week ago, that girl shared how she felt about me. I am so in dilemma. I really don’t know what to do.

I am confused as to which girl shared how she felt about you. If you like a girl who is bisexual and you are okay about it, date her. You are just 18-year-old. Also, if the girl doesn’t like you then there isn’t really much hope now there, is it? So, don’t be in a dilemma, go talk to the girl you like, if she likes you back then there’s no problem. However, if she isn’t into you then you can move on.

Dear Sadichha,

I am 16, female. I graduated SEE with good GPAs. I really want to study medicine and help people. However, my parents want me to follow my siblings’ step: join the military. I even talked to my parents but they don’t seem to understand. Please help me.

You have to talk to your parents again, try to make them understand. Also, try to understand why they would like you to be in the military. You want to study medicine and that’s a great field to be in as well. Take the help of your siblings as well. I am sure your siblings can also help convince your parents. Our parents want what’s best for us, but I feel like major life decisions like choosing the field we want to make a career out of has to be chosen by us. So, don’t give up so easily. Make them understand and talk to them openly. In the end, you are the one who is supposed to take the tests and study. They will not be able to force you to go for the military exams, if you don’t want to go, then don’t go. Instead, start looking for colleges you want to go to and sit down for their entrance exams.

Dear Sadichha,

I smoked cigarette and my parents sent me to rehabilitation center. I was so frustrated back then when they caught me smoking. And my brother said, “You are 19 years old girl. You must not do that.” Instead to advising, he directly admitted me to the rehabilitation center. It has been 2 years and only yesterday, I got out. Now, the societies don’t like me. I really want to die.

Mistakes happen from everyone. It’s what we learn and how we move on from them that defines us. Maybe for your parents their 19-year-old smoking was so alarming that they didn’t know what to do and sent you to the rehabilitation center. Now that you are back, I hope you make smart choices in life. You can’t be frustrated that your parents want good for you, they want you to be healthy and happy. That is the reason they are worried. The society will always have their own opinions, no matter how good we are- we will not be able to please them all. Hence, forget what the society thinks. Try to mend your relationship with your family.

Dear Sadichha, 

I am 18 years old, guy from Kathmandu. Only 2 years back, I finished my +2. I took a gap year, so that, I could apply to USA. However, all my college applications got rejected. Even after USA, I tried KU. But still, didn’t make into the list. I don’t know what I’d do if I get rejected from TU. What should I do?

I am sure there are other options for Bachelors apart from TU. There are many private educational institutions where you could apply and many of them even have flexible admission dates. I suggest you research more on these private institutions and apply to them as well. Be hopeful, I am sure you’ll be able to get into one of those. If not, while you prepare to apply next year, you can always look for internships or work to keep yourself busy. That experience will also help you in life. Don’t get disheartened easily, work hard and be patient, there is a time and place for everything in life.