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When you start dating and talking about it, you will suddenly feel that everyone around you has been there, done that! Or so they make it seem. In that light, most people have advice for you, whether solicited or unsolicited. What do you do with so much information? Process it or ignore it? Well, a bit of both, we would say. But definitely consider following these:

Take your time in getting to know him/her

No one can get to know a person in a day. Plus, the initial phase of a relationship is always seen with rose-tinted glasses, so you will hardly focus on the not-so-nice aspects. Meet him/her often, go to different places, spend time in various situations and places, and take your time understanding him/her, and offer him the space to get to know you.

Go easy on spilling the beans

Being talkative is not an excuse to saying anything to a new person without having your filters on. So think twice before you start talking deeply about your family, your past relationships and what happened during. These are topics you touch upon later in the relationship when you have reached a certain comfort level with your partner.  

Don’t talk long-term too soon

Nothing scares a person more than the date talking of marriage and happily ever after only after they have just met! Even if you are getting into a relationship hoping it will convert into something lasting, hold your horses before you ask him about wedding venues and menus.

Don’t compare him/her with your exes

Every person is different, and even if you have certain experiences etched in your mind, you don’t have to bring them up time and again on how the current date is handling situations versus how a particular ex would have. Apart from being detrimental on your relationship, it will also be demeaning to him if you say it out loud.

Speak your mind, but calmly

Dating doesn’t mean agreeing with the person or keeping quiet about the issues you feel strongly for. Put your points across, but being passionate does not mean adopting a loud tone. You can say what you want calmly for the other person to understand your point and respect you for it.